1 Truth To Get The Most Out Of 2019

We have been taught a half truth. We have been taught that we learn from doing, from trying, from the experimenting. But, that’s not the whole truth. The whole truth is we learn from doing then on reflecting on what we did, re-thinking what we know and trying again.

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To learn the most from this year you need to reflect on what you did. Try the 2018 Reflection Challenge.

Here’s my 2018 year end reflection:

1. What are 3 words that describe this year?

Amazeballs, successful, strengthening.

2. What was your best memory this year?

Way too many – that’s why the year was so amazeballs – Barcelona, Paris, Tofino, My Birthday Party!!

3. What did you do this year that you’ve never done before?

So many things: Barcelona, Paris, skydiving, taught 2 new courses, new clients….

4. What was the best course, book or program you experienced this year?

Hands down these 2 books: The Universe Has Your Back & Attached.

5. What was the nicest thing someone did for you?

Again so many things… thoughtful birthday cards and presents, friends coming to the hospital when I needed stitches…… oh and a birthday surprise at the Shangri-La – that was epic!

6. What was the best way you used your time?

Working, connecting, relaxing, learning, reflecting.

7. What was the best choice or risk you took this year? And Why?

Planning my trip to Barcelona and Paris. I wasn’t sure who I would go with or if I could really afford it, but it all worked out better than I could have imagined. I am so glad I took the leap even though I wasn’t sure because now I have amazing memories!

8. What lesson was presented to you in 2018? Did you learn the lesson?

That I need to master dealing with procrastination and stress or it leads to bad consequences. And YES, I learned the lesson.

9. What was your biggest energy vampire this year?

Procrastination and worry.

10. What was your biggest obstacle this year?

Doing many new things at the same time, so the learning curve was high and so was the self-criticism.

11. How could you have made the year better?

Been kinder to myself.

12. What event, person, outcome, idea or habit had the biggest positive impact?

Again too many to mention them all but I think my trip to Barcelona and Paris was the biggest event and keeping a gratitude journal was the best habit.

13. What was your greatest superpower this year?

My ability to reflect, learn a tonne and to then go try again.

14. What was your proudest moment of the year?

My birthday – I was surrounded with so much love and celebration!

15. After this year what do you know for sure?

Health before everything, and having fun is part of health.

Also see my blog on 3 Reflection Challenges For a Powerful New Year to get more reflection challenges.

Ask me about a free, no pressure call — ninja style — to discuss the results you want to create for business, leadership or career.

6 Reasons Your Business Coach Has You Do A Values Exercise

As an executive and small business coach in Vancouver, I always start with a values exercise. This may seem simple, but it’s actually very strategic. Going though a values exercise produces several long-lasting benefits. Here are the 6 benefits from completing a values exercise with a executive and small business coach:

1. Clarity 

Going through the process of a values exercise with a business coach helps identify what’s clear and what’s not — this way the coach does have to waste time on things that are already clear for you, and can focus on helping you define what is in the grey zone, which creates the most value out of the time with your coach.

2. Confidence

One of the consistent challenges I see when working with with executives, CEOs and managers is a lack of confidence that prevents them from taking action or making decisions. They all aspire to have the unwavering confidence of Steve Jobs, Gary Vaynerchuk, or Oprah — but the truth is


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that Steve Jobs, Gary Vaynerchuk and Oprah don’t have unwavering confidence. What they have is a clarity around their values — who they are, what they stand for, what matters to them — so that even in the face of criticism, uncertainty and disbelieve they can have confidence in their values, even if they don’t have confidence in themselves.

3. Decisiveness

In my MBA ethics class I read this great book called Defining Moments, by Badaracco and one of the author’s main points is that ethical decision making is rarely about a decision between good and bad or right and wrong, but it is a decision between right and right or bad and bad. So, when we are faced with these challenging decisions we are often paralyzed, but having defined and articulated values can be a guide to tough decisions because the values will clearly point to the decision that is the best option based upon what maters to you.

4. Power

True power, the kind of power you can summon when you feel powerless, comes not from authority, intelligence or title — it comes from authenticity, from being 100% who you are. Being clear about what your values are give you the power to speak and act in any moment under any circumstances.

5. Velocity

When you’re unclear about what’s important to you, you spend lots of time “humming and hawing” about what to do, weighing the pros and cons, and playing out all the different scenarios and this creates “analysis paralysis” which slows down the momentum of your growth and trajectory.  Once you have clear values, then you can make decisions much quicker and easier, which means you can take more actions to create bigger results faster!

6. Ease

For most executives and managers making tough decisions is only half of the battle, living with those decisions is the other half. In business when there are important decisions to make or lots to do, our heads spin with all the scenarios and all the implications — you know the feeling. Having clear values, allows for value-based decision making which helps clear the mind for fast effective decision making, but it also helps create ease after making a decision. It helps keep those crazy-making, wheel-spinning thoughts at bay because you were able to run your decision through criteria and you can rest assured that you made the best decision at the time with that criteria.

So, when your executive or small business coach wants to start with a values exercise, it’s not a frivolous activity, she’s looking to to create many long lasting benefits for you and your business. If you want to get started clarifying your values you can try this simple and powerful values exercise.

Contact me for a complimentary clarity conversation.

Why Hire A Business Coach?

person-woman-sport-ballThe question really is “Why ever have any type of coach?“. Olympic athletes have a coach because they have a critical objective. Olympians care about optimizing performance, expanding potential and achieving results. The coach sees what the Olympian can’t see on the field. The coach provides clarity and structure so the Olympian can focus on doing what it takes to get on the podium. The coach is the Olympian’s partner in fulfilling his or her goals.